Even the best relationship has its ups and downs (cliche, I know, but true). No matter how strong you and your significant other are, there are bound to be times where you don’t quite see eye-to-eye. Fighting is never fun, but the most important thing to remember during these times is that you’re on the same team, and fighting amongst teammates only weakens your game. Of course, it’s okay (even healthy) to argue when you are consistently coming to productive solutions. However, in the heat of the moment, it can be hard to see the big picture. Follow these 5 tips to fight better, and resolve conflict more quickly.
#1 Maintain physical contact while you fight
Cuddling or holding hands while arguing helps to keep you connected to your partner and reminds both parties of their mutual love. Affectionate physical touch can help to diffuse the situation and bring the focus back onto the relationship rather than who is right/wrong. This works best during minor disagreements and serious conversations. It is not as effective during more intense arguments. NEVER touch your partner in a violent or unloving way.
#2 Don’t Be Afraid to Take a Time Out
Okay, I admit, I am the WORST at this. I hate unresolved conflict. But sometimes when emotions are high, continuing to discuss the issue isn’t productive. Taking some time to practice some self care and cool off can do wonders for your perspective. Rather than focusing on why you’re upset or who said what, focus on giving your brain a break to cool off. Return to the subject when you feel calm and recharged, and you’ll be much more ready to come to a compromise.